I’ve heard so many horror stories about pumping and how breastfeeding is an arduous and lonely journey where you will be judged left and right. Mamas who latch in public have to endure stares, mamas who choose not to breastfeed will be scorned. You can never win, and on top of that, it’s supposedly a painful and sore process.

On the 11th of September, I went to Sarawak General Hospital for a routine checkup but was admitted immediately due to one of the boys showing early signs of distress. I asked to go home to pack my things and returned an hour later with my bag of essentials.

This is a guide to all the clueless mamas (and daddies) out there who, like us, were completely taken unawares. Some might accuse, “you guys didn’t do proper family planning!” well, to that I would like to point out: some people take years to conceive and we didn’t want the stress of actively trying and being disappointed so our surprise is our little miracle…